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An Amazing Feeling!

The state of your surroundings is a reflection of your state of mind.  A dirty car, bedroom, office reflects a state of disorganization in your mind.  A clean and organized daily environment promotes productivity and efficiency.

This week I got rid of 3 trash bags of clothing- at least 200 items some dating back to 2001 or earlier.  I took it to Buffalo Exchange who took a whopping 3 items and credited me $20 which I promptly put towards a shiny silver American Apparel track jacket.

Growing up I’ve been somewhat of a pack-rat.  Holding on to things for sentimental reasons, and the “What if I need it later” attitude.  (Thanks Mom, I learned it from you!)  As someone who’s averaged one move per year over the last 12 years, I can tell you lugging around all the extra crap and trying to find places to store it have become a burden.

The high I’ve gotten from getting rid of things and getting organized lately is one of the best feelings I’ve had in a long time.  In fact I’m addicted now and looking for more things to get rid of!

A good rule to go by when spring cleaning is if you haven’t worn or used something once or twice in a year, you should get rid of it.  My new rule is that you should either absolutely love everything in your closet, or need to wear it for certain occaisions.

I gave my girl Lisa a fashion show and she helped me decide what gear to keep.  It was difficult as some stuff still fits and looks good yet was out of style or looked good but not great. My new rule is when in doubt don’t keep it, get rid of it!

As Lisa said, “Make room for new things in your life” getting rid of the old helps you look forward and makes room for new exciting things and opportunities to come into your life.

Here’s a great article I found on Feng Shui: http://progressivelightingblog.blogspot.com/2010/12/ten-ways-to-feng-shui-your-state-of.html

Take this opportunity over the holidays to make room in your life for all the abundant things to come.

Happy Holidays Everyone and Wishing you all the Success, Love, and Happiness you deserve in 2011.



The Secret to Women

I was never good with women.  I had my biggest crush for years on this pretty blonde girl in school named Stacy Goldstein.  She lived 3 houses down from me, we used to ride the bus to school together… you know she was one of those girls you just stared at in class.

We started hanging out in 5th grade, I went to her pool during the summer, she came over to my house sometimes.  I remember one day looking at our class picture and asking her who she would date at school.  She named one of my good friends Sven, and she said she would date me.  I was floored, imagine hearing that the girl you’d been crazy for saying that she would date you!

Long story short, I never asked her out.  In my defense it was 5th grade, and what was I supposed to do-ask my Mom to take us to the mall?  In retrospect YES, I should have asked my Mom, or I should have told Stacy,”I want to date you-how can we go out?”  I’m sure we could have figured something out.

Needless to say summer ended and I never asked her out.  I ended up moving to another neighborhood and we lost touch.  I had it so bad for this girl that I couldn’t sleep at night and would go out on the balcony and would look at the moon, thinking about her, talking to her in my head.  Fast fwd to 7th grade, my buddy Rod was teasing me at school in front of Stacy and a bunch of kids saying  “Chi likes Stacy, Chi likes Stacy”.  My response was defensively “No I don’t!” (The correct response would have been “Yes I do!” with a smile).  Fast fwd to High School I remember painfully watching Stacy making out with her Soccer Team Captain Boyfriend in the lunch room.  Life WAS HORRIBLE!

Years later I’ve since read books, watched DVD’s, listened to audio seminars, and taken classes from a dating coach.  About 4 years ago alot of dating material started surfacing on the internet.  A book called The Game hit the NY Times Bestseller list.  I took a pick-up bootcamp in Vegas for a weekend and learned routines, going so far as to script what I said and practiced approaching girls and everything from my body language, to tonality, physicality, and entrance.

The past 3 years has been the time of my life.  I’ve had 2 girlfriends, and dated multiple women.  I have a sex life.  I’m not saying I am a Don Juan and can get any girl I want, but just that I have alot more confidence in myself and I project that confidence.

The Secret to Women is not learning “pick up lines” or trying to buy her affection with gifts or showing off your expensive cars and watches.  The Secret to Women is to be a fun, confident man, to make the girl comfortable, tease her, make her laugh and be comfortable being sexual with her.

I was out last Saturday in downtown Los Angeles next to the Club Exchange.  I surveyed some girls at the Bar and asked them what guys do wrong at Clubs.  They responded that at least 50% of guys that are out come off as desperate and needy.

Ways to Gain Confidence and Improve Self Esteem:

1. Improve your self image

  • Go to the Gym.  Gaining strength and seeing visible changes in muscle mass is a great motivator that outweighs the effort put in.
  • Get a new wardrobe.  This may sound superficial, but it works for me as I feel more confident when I look good.

2. Learn new things, Get a hobby, and Gain life skills

  • Some ideas are to learn cooking, dancing anything fun or useful as discussed in my last post

3.  Commit yourself to constant self improvement, and set high standards and goals for yourself in life.

  • If you see an area of your life you want to improve, take note of it, and make goals.
  • One of the best things I’ve learned is to not only write your goals down.  But put a date for its completion and make a step by step action plan of how you’re going to get there. Lastly TAKE ACTION.
  • You will gain confidence by making progress.  As my mentor Eric says “Progress, not Perfection.”

Here’s to elevating your self-confidence and attracting the girl of your dreams!


Another resource I found interesting: http://www.confidencemanual.com

Use these moves next time you’re out dancing with a hottie:


High Fashion, Low Budget

As I mentioned before, the first impression you make on a woman before you even utter a word is made by your appearance.  As many women know it’s always safer to dress well on daily basis even to run errands then to look like a slob.  Be prepared and be at your best all the time, you never know whom you’ll run into.

A challenge for many guys is finding good looking, comfortable clothes that we can afford.  The best places I’ve found to get great clothing at a reasonable price are:

  • Buffalo Exchange
  • Nordstrom Rack
  • Loehmann’s.

Buffalo Exchange is a place where you can buy and sell clothes.  Most times people don’t want to wear clothing other people have worn  but often times the stuff here has either never been worn, or were worn a few times and were really well taken care of.  They have a strict policy and standard of what they take which is that it must be in style, and in almost new condition.  I brought in a pair of what I thought was a nice pair of Lucky jeans I had worn a couple times..  The  girl checked the tag and was told me they were from a few years ago and were out of style.   I’ve bought my infamous Maroon leather jacket there, a $300 G Star jacket for $40, and my friend Derrick just bought a Mint condition Zara Suit for $29 top and bottom.

The next place I really like is Nordstrom Rack.  They have high end clothing starting at 50% off retail.  I consider retail price sometimes ridiculous, so  at 50% the pricing I feel is reasonable.  They have great jean selection like True Religion, Citizen of Humanity, Rock and Republic.  I bought my most expensive pair of jeans there a couple months ago- I spent $100 on a pair of Citizen of Humanity (retail $200)  and$50 on a pair of Monarchy.  Prior to that I had never spent more than $25 on a pair of jeans.  The  cut, style, and quality and comfort of the more expensive jeans does make a difference.

Spending alot of time in Asia the past few years I’ve bought some knock-offs in China of Gstar and Diesel.  Yes, they look good, I’ve gotten compliments on them and they were cheap $15usd however they fall apart after a few washes.  So spend more  and get a better quality product.

Another place to check out is Loehmanns, which I say is a “Baller” version of Ross or Marshall (more high end).  Similar discounts to Nordstrom Rack- about 50% off retail.  There’s something about Nordstrom Rack that I like a bit more, they seem a bit more organized and well staffed.  I would check out both just to compare.

Another option if you don’t have a budget to spend much is to tailor your old clothes that you wear so they fit and look sharper on you.

Lastly you can check out thrift stores such as Goodwill or Salvation Army, however it’s unlikely you’ll find alot of designer or expensive stuff.  Not to say that you have to wear designer to look good.  When you do make finds at the thrift stores, they’ll be amazing like Suit jackets for $10.

Those are my best suggestions, things I haven’t really tried but you might be able to find stuff on Craigslist.org, or ebay.  Also generally online you can find stuff cheaper, and whatever store you like (Banana Republic, Guess) you can often times Google and find coupons and discount codes.  There are also sites like Gilt.com,
thewarehousesale.com, and RueLaLa.com that offer crazy sale prices on luxury items.

Good Luck and Happy Hunting!

Send me a before and after pics of your outfits! (Remember to buy clothes that fit!)


What are your High Fashion, Low Budget suggestions?



Best Fashion Advice You’ve Ever Received

The first impression you make on a woman before you even utter your first words is made by your sense of fashion and style.

The fashion advice every man needs to hear: Wear clothes that fit you!

Clothing that does not fit you can make you look short, fat, skinny, goofy.

Wearing clothing that fits you makes you look taller, sexier, sophisticated.

Incorrect Fit:  Proper Fit:

Let’s face it fellas, we’re not in High School anymore.   It’s not appropriate to wear XL jackets when your size is really Medium. Perhaps you have the opposite issue- maybe it’s been 10 years since college and you’re still trying to squeeze into your favorite t-shirt from High School.  For me the size of my clothes has gotten smaller as I’ve gotten older (to the point where they fit me completely now).  Yes it’s taken me a good 10 years to figure what looks best, but I can confidently say I know if my clothes fit me and the right sizes to wear.

6 Common ways Men’s clothes do not fit them:

  1. Shirts/jackets are too wide in the torso
  2. Sleeves are too baggy, too long
  3. Pants are too long
  4. Pant waist is too big or tight
  5. Pants are too baggy around butt and legs, crotch is too low
  6. Wrong size shoes

Incorrect Fit:


Proper Fit:


Ways to figure out if your clothes don’t fit:

  • Put your arms out to the side shoulder level – the shirt should not be excessively baggy around your torso.  If you look like you have wings and can flap them with all the excess material you need a slimmer cut shirt.
  • Hold arms out straight ahead chest level. Unbutton the cuffs and allow them to reach as far down your hand as they go. They should not go past 1/3rd of your hand (where the bottom of the inside of your thumb is).
  • Raise your arms up above your shoulders  – If  your shirt goes above your belly it is too small.
  • Roll up the bottom of your jeans/pants, if you have a cuff more than 2 inches your pants are probably too long
  • Pants are too tight if you have to inhale to put them on or if you can see the outline of your nuts.
  • Pants are too loose and low if you can grab large portions of fabric around your legs or from below your crotch.
  • Shoes are too big if your feet slide around, if you kick out and they move, if you have to wear super thick socks.
  • Shoes are too small if your toes go to the edge of the front of the shoe

How to find your clothes size:

  • Go to a tailor and get measured
  • Try different clothes brands as they size differently (I know Nautica and Tommy Hilfigger size Small fits like a size Large in Ben Sherman)
  • Try the clothes size smaller and bigger than you think you are.  Have a girl or buddy come with you to give you an opinion.  Ask the sales clerk for an honest opinion.

Ways to make your clothes fit you better:

Get them tailored.

Go to them Gym to put on weight or lose some weight.

Here’s an article I found helpful:

For custom men’s fitting consultation check out this site: http://www.KinoWear.com

You’ll feel better when you look better.  Go to the mall this weekend and try out some new clothes.  A couple of great fitting new shirts or new shoes will make you feel like a new man!

What’s the worst Fashion mistake you’ve seen a guy make?