One of the things that’s helped me improve my confidence SIGNIFICANTLY with women has been to learn how to be ok with me. It sounds so simple but deep down many of us have insecurities with our looks, careers, social lives..

Two of the topics I teach in my newest video Dance Seduction Moves “Wetter is Better” are BE CONFIDENT and BE SEXY. Be proud of who you are, good and bad, and don’t apologize for being the man you are and have become. Know that it’s ok to be a sexual being and to say sexy things to women, dance sexually… Know that women like seeing that you have the confidence to express yourself!

In the video I also teach you how to BE FUN, and how to TAKE CONTROL. Women love being around guys that make them laugh and enjoy themselves, I’ve also been told by different close female friends that they prefer that their man acts like a man and takes charge and is aggressive. As an Asian male I know for some this can be difficult as many of us were raised to be more passive or grew up in a female dominated household.

Just know that you can change old habits and learn all of these things, you can learn how to be the man you’ve always wanted to be. A more Fun and Confident man, Sexier, and someone who Takes control and goes after what he wants. If you are alone on this Valentine’s Day, give yourself this gift and become the best man you can be so when you meet that right girl, she’ll see all the best qualities in you.

As a toast to you, I’m offering an amazing offer for all 3 DVD’s, a FREE 30 minute skype lesson, a $15 off coupon go to http://danceseductionmoves.com/dance_seduction_moves_dvd/ and use coupon code: BESTYOU2012. Cheers, and see you at the top!

-Chi CEO of DanceFloorGame and Creator of the Dance Attraction Formula

Try this one next time you’re out!  It helps to sometimes put a cheesy grin on your face!

-Chi

Skip to 6:50 and 22 minutes for highlights

More info about Kurt at http://www.kurtseduction.com/approach

The myth that only great dancers do well on the floor is down: you do not need be next Michael Jackson to generate attraction with dance. At a meeting of salsa dancers, you’ll have to impress with your steps to stand out from others, but in reality, other parties are much less demanding . Provided you don’t overdo it, just have fun and use body language to your advantage. Of course if you know some simple and specific routines, it will help.  Relax, I’ll explain how. First, you have to feel good about what you’re hearing and wearing. I, for instance, do not like brazilian funk, but that doens’t stop me from dancing when you play this genre.

My standard procedure in most cases involves more shoulder movement and connection with another person than real skill. The idea here is to escalate the touching, going from friendly to the seductive, and from there to sexual. I talked a little about anchoring and touch the past chapters, but the great thing that I’ll share with you is this: Women love to be touched, in a subtle way, of course. The first touch when you meet a girl should be in any situation, cordial or funny: present yourself, hold her shoulder briefly when she laughs, poke it with your elbow when you give a neg, things like that. As the interaction is heating up, you can raise the contact, walking arm in arm, holding hands, holding the waist and back, touching the face, kissing and finally getting her to your bed. All this can take hours and even days with interactions based in conversation.

On the dance floor, it is simpler. Using your body to express yourself, you have the same results in less time.

Chi Szeto is a dance instructor with international award-winning DVDs on simple dance steps, that can help guys using body movements to generate attraction, comfort, and seduction. He also released videos on Youtube, whose visits grow in geometrical projection. But what I like most about Chi’s Game is that it turns rookie dancers in skilled seducers.

From: Johnny Vice of Titan Wings and The Rules Breaker Blog. A excerpt from his upcoming book:  (I highlighted what I really resonated with)

Thanks Johnny!

-Chi

Here are 3 Steps to becoming more Confident immediately:

1.Smile

Yes, that’s right- my best advice to looking more confident everyday on the streets and in the club is to simply put a teethy smile on your face.  Even a smug smirk will work pretty well!  Yes the best way to become a better dancer instantly WITHOUT any dance training is to simply smile when you’re dancing.

Imagine 2 people- both terrible dancers.  One of whom is looking down at the floor, looks unconfident like he doesn’t  want to be there.  The second has the same skill level but is smiling and looks like he’s enjoying the interaction and environment.  Guy 1 get’s an “F” in dancing because of lack of skill and lack of presentation.  Guy 2 gets a “C” in dancing because although he lacks skills he presents himself much better.

Which brings me to my second Instant Confidence Booster:

2.Make Eye Contact ”The Eyes are the Window to the Soul”

I was teaching a salsa lesson to a  friend last night and she kept looking at my chest.  This is very normal, and it’s also very normal for beginner dancers  to look at their feet when they’re learning and in a classroom environment.

Eye contact is a very intimate act- whether it be looking at yourself in the mirror in the morning, looking at your dance partner, or a random cutie  you just met at the club.

Asian Males have been portrayed in the media as  nerdy, unconfident, asexual , filling sidekick/comedic relief only roles (think Harold of Harold and Kumar).  I think these stereotypes exist for a reason, and I’ve mentioned  many times how introverted I was growing up and until more recent times I  had trouble maintaining eye contact with beautiful women.  Not until I totally became comfortable in my skin and knew who I was inside and out can and I now feel the confidence to maintain eye contact with anyone.

I have a few drills for my students to help them with eye contact which you will see on video soon.  A couple easy things to try are to just start experimenting making more eye contact and smiling more.  You may even find your mood improves and you’ll notice when you force yourself to smile you’ll feel happier  (Charles Darwin).  Practice this enough and what you may notice is the other person may become “eye shy” with you and you may develop more intimacy and connection with the person you’re with.

3.Speak Louder, Have More Energy.

After taking a dating/PUA bootcamp with my coach DJ Fuji over 3 years ago, I learned to come into interactions with very high energy.  Basically say “Hi,  what’s up? “(or whatever your greeting/opener is very loudly; while smiling of course =) when you first meet a girl.  Again the opposite and wrong way to approach women is to  be very low energy, lethargic, which can come across unconfident and worse yet creepy!

Talking louder especially when you’re greeting someone, and also when public speaking will convey a warmer, bolder presence.  My analogy for “talking louder” while dancing is to dance with energy.  Just like the person who looks down and doesn’t smile- a person with no energy is no fun to dance with.  As my friend Kurt Spelling described in our interview last week,  people who don’t have energy  ”are an energy drain and people want to avoid you like the plague”.  Power and energy come from your legs so make sure you use those muscles to propel you wherever you’re going on the dance floor.

Conclusion: Presentation Over Skill

Finally, I tell my students that more important than actual dance ability is ” Presentation over skill”   Mind you I still encourage everyone to learn some basic movements to get by so they don’t look completely silly but as a beginner it’s more important  to look confident than to be a good dancer.  If you can smile more, be more comfortable making eye contact, and can come across more high energy, you will come across as a higher value individual, and you’ll draw people in as they will want to interact with you.

Thoughts, Ideas, and Suggestions in the comment box below!

-Chi

p.s. I’m going to Las Vegas this weekend- woop woop!

Dear Students, Friends and Family!

Happy Turkey Day! I’m thankful to be spending time with family in Pismo Beach California, thankful for my health and all the great things to come. Just watched the Miami-Dallas game, strolled along the coast, had a nice meal and now sending out a message to you lovely folks!

The year is not over yet.. I’m looking forward to competing in my first World Cup of Salsa Championships next month in Vegas, and planning some amazing things for 2012 and beyond.

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