Without even dancing well, a man who has the confidence to get on the dance floor is way ahead of his peers, I’d say 40-60% of men at clubs never have the balls to step on the dance floor. So if you’re out there, you’re already way ahead of those dudes with their back on the walls clutching their drinks. (What is this -middle school?) Now I’m not here to judge, I’m here to help and am just sharing my experience.
What I noticed works best for me, and when I see the biggest improvements in whatever I’m doing (Dancing, Martial Arts, working out) is if I have inspiration and competition. Whenever I feel like I’m the best at something I become very complacent. However when I see say an amazing dancer in dance class, or on my dance company, I get inspired to improve.
Don’t look at someone’s amazing talent or skill and say “I’ll never be able to be like that”. Instead say, “I want to be as good as him/her”, and know that with work you will make more amazing progress than you would ever imagine.
One of the first questions I ask when I meet a new girl is: “What is your passion?” Disappointingly 6 out of 10 girls answer “I don’t know”, or “I don’t have one.” As a man who has many interests-music, dance, women, cars, money, learning, teaching; it’s quite a turnoff if a girl doesn’t have anything she really loves in life. It could be any hobby or interest, they don’t have to be a Olympic Athlete, or a Master Chef, it can be something as simple as going to the gym, appreciating good food, photography,nature… It doesn’t have to be anything artistic or super exciting, but just the fact, that the girl I”m dating has something in life that moves them, allows me to relate to them.